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I’m Pregnant!!! Who’s the fool you or I?

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(Photo courtesy of Fill Their Arms)

April Fool’s has come and gone yet again this year, leaving me with the taunting question are you the fool or am I?

Statistically you do not have to compare or research to notice the obvious that making a pregnancy announcement as joke is the number one joke we all come across. You have either been the joker or the victim that has fallen into the trap. I myself, have been guilty of being both the joker and victim. Announcing a fake pregnancy is something I used to find as an easy sense of humor that many would fall for. Of course, after numerous times of doing it the joke got old and was not nearly funny. I lost the humor after about six years of Infertility. Suddenly pregnancy was something I took seriously and had sensitivity towards.

The mere thought of facing this joke this year was agonizing. I was not quite sure how I would cope. Would it be something I might take light to and have a good laugh? Or would it be something that felt like a wound being torn apart once again? Fortunately I have been very open about my struggles with Infertility, shared the photos of reconsidering using the joke and expressed my feelings towards it on my social media sites. Though no comments were left about any kind of opinion I had seen no joke except for one pertaining to pregnancy. Maybe there was a new trend this year or just maybe I reached at least one person who took my thoughts into consideration. Whatever the case may be I was very grateful I did not have to deal with it at all. At least that is what I had though.

Then doing my nightly updates and searching on my social media sites I came across another post with a picture. It was one pertaining to thinking twice about posting fake pregnancies. I must include this was posted on a Infertility support page. My eyes were filled with shock!! There were multiple negative comments about those who suffer from Infertility and not knowing how to handle a joke. Infertile women were criticized for being overly sensitive and not knowing how to handle a joke. It was obvious that these people had never experienced Infertility or supported someone who had.

In a way I felt sorry for them to know something is to have full understanding of the subject. Clearly none of them had understanding. Then again maybe I did not understand them. At one point in my life I was that person who could share a joke about pregnancy, laugh my heart out and forget about it. Now I am that person who cries because people consider pregnancy a joke. I understand that anyone has a right to display whatever joke they would like but the consideration prior to posting is the one thing I wish for. I could choose to shelter myself from negative comments and a lack of support. However, I choose not to because the honest truth is that the people that have no place in my life may never truly understand or have compassion. If I can reach at least person to find understanding and compassion than that means I am one step closer to making those realize that sometimes a joke just is not a joke.

You realize a joke is not a joke when you go through at least three rounds of IVF, a loss of a child, eight years of Infertility and/or empty arms that are never filled. Pregnancy is a gift that a woman is given, to carry a human being inside of your womb. To feel your unborn child grow inside of you and to love someone like no one else you have never loved before them. That is the beautiful bliss of pregnancy. You may think I am a fool for being sensitive when there is a joke about being pregnant but then again I think you might be a fool for thinking of a life growing inside of you is a joke.

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Hoping Believing Waiting Review

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Hoping Believing Waiting is an incredible shop I stumbled upon after my diagnosis with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and during my struggle with Infertility. I searched high and low for a shop that would provide me chic, meaningful and one of a kind awareness jewelry. This shop was created in order to give those who struggle through their journeys support, hope and belief while waiting for their miracles. While supporting her customers in return we get to support her through her journey as well.

For so long I had been searching through her shop and waiting to receive something meaningful. I decided what a better way to show how much I wanted one of her products than to share on my Facebook page. Some of you may ask why I just did not purchase the items myself but at the time I felt items like hers should be gifted in support of my journey(how times have changed now). While I was hoping for a special piece to symbolize my trying to conceive journey, my sister was actually waiting for an item for HBW. In anticipation my sister could not wait to give me my special Christmas gift ahead of time. She told me since I had talked about it so much and considered purchasing it myself she could not wait. Upon opening the box that my gift came in my tears started to flow. Inside was a baby dust ornament. It was full of glitter that sparkled, a written note on the inside that read,”Baby Dust” and little charms to complete it. If that was not enough it glowed in the dark! This item felt like it was made special just for me. The meaning behind the ornament and  coming from my sister the feeling was overwhelming(in a good way). For the first time I felt the full support from my family, the hope and the wanting of feeling special to be completed.

During the holidays, special occasions, awareness months and birthdays I have started my very own collection. I decided to purchase a few silicone wrist bands for Infertility, TTC and PCOS awareness. That was not enough for me so I went ahead to purchase some for my friends along with baby dust bottles to gift. Of course, I kept a few for myself. My friends and family have all bought me necklaces throughout this past year. Every time I receive a new item I am amazed with how they make me feel all over again. I never fail to have tears in my eyes and I cherish all of my items dearly. HBW’s items have managed to give me that bit of hope that I need when I feel like it is lost. I am thankful for being able to carry such priceless items with me during my journey. I would recommend this shop to anyone who is in need of some hope through any journey they are going through. The prices are just right, the items are high quality and the costumer service is full of support! (Infertility Awareness Week is in the month of April do not forget to purchase your awareness items in time).

The best part of Hoping Believing Waiting is the variety of items there are. Some of the items included are:

-awareness/baby dust bracelets

-bracelets

-key chains

-magnets

-earrings

-ornaments(special ordered during the holidays for PCOS, angel babies and TTC)

-electric Candle

More Information about Hoping Believing Waiting:

  • Hoping Believing Waiting was founded by Priscilla(Silla) a home based shop owner
  • Fundraising/Hobby shop revolving around personal struggle with Infertility

-fundraising for own Infertility journey

-encouraging items to bring to those waiting for their miracles

  • Offers to help fundraising:

-offer to design embossed silicone wristband to sell to friends, family members, co-workers, ect.

-must purchase 100 wrist bands or more(you can check out HBW’s Facebook page for further details)

  • Jewelry designs are based on Infertility, Baby Dust, PCOS, Endometriosis, Angel Babies, IVF and much more

To find out more about Hoping Believing Waiting you can connect with her page on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Hoping.Believing.Waiting

or shop at her online store(US&INTL’ shipping):  http://hopingbelievingwaiting.weebly.com/

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εїзAcronyms & Abbreviations for Infertility&TTC♂♀

(Resources found at: http://www.fertilityplus.com/faq/acronyms.html)

  • 2WW = 2-Week Wait
  • 47XXY = Klinefelter’s Syndrome

A

  • AF – Auto Flow/Aunt Flow (menses)
  • AH, AZH = Assisted Hatching
  • AHI = At-home Insemination
  • AI = Artificial Insemination
  • AIH = Artificial Insemination from Husband
  • ANA = Anti-nuclear Antibodies
  • AO = Anovulation
  • AOA, AVA = Anti-ovarian Antibody
  • APA = Anti-phospholipid Antibodies
  • APTT = Activated Partial Thromboplastin Time
  • ART = Assisted Reproductive Technology
  • ASA = Anti-sperm Antibody
  • ASRM = American Society of Reproductive Medicine
  • ATA = Anti-thyroid Antibody
  • AWOL = A Woman On Lupron

 B

  • B2 = Baby Two
  • BA = Baby Aspirin
  • BBT = Basal Body Temperature
  • BCP = Birth Control Pills
  • BD = Baby Dance (sex)
  • BFN = Big Fat Negative
  • BFP = Big Fat Positive
  • BG = Blood Glucose
  • BMS = Baby-making Sex
  • BSE = Breast Self-Exam
  • BT = Balanced Translocation
  • BW, b/w = Bloodwork

C

  • C# = Cycle Number
  • CB = Cycle Buddy
  • CF = Cervical Fluid
  • CM = Cervical Mucus
  • COW = Curse of Womanhood (menstruation)
  • CP = Cervical Position
  • CPFM = ClearPlan Fertility Monitor

  D

  • DD = Dear Daughter, Darling Daughter
  • DH = Dear Husband, Darling Husband
  • DP = Dear Partner, Darling Partner
  • DW = Dear Wife, Darling Wife
  • D&C = Dilation & Curettage
  • D&E = Dilation & Evacuation
  • DE = Donor Eggs
  • DES = Diethylstilbestrol (a synthetic estrogen)
  • DI = Donor Insemination
  • DIPI = Direct Intra-peritoneal Insemination
  • DOR = Diminished Ovarian Reserve
  • DOST = Direct Oocyte-Sperm Transfer
  • DPO = Days Post-Ovulation
  • DPR = Days Post-Retrieval
  • DPT = Days Post-Transfer
  • DP3DT = Days Post 3-Day Transfer
  • DP3DT = Days Post 5-Day Transfer
  • Dx = Diagnosis

E

  • EB, EMB = Endometrial Biopsy
  • EDD = Estimated Due Date
  • ENDO = Endometriosis
  • EPO = Evening Primrose Oil
  • EPT = Early Pregnancy Test
  • ET = Embryo Transfer
  • ETF = Embryo Toxic Factor
  • ETA = Embryo Toxicity Assay
  • EW, EWCM = Eggwhite Cervical Mucus

F

  • FET = Frozen Embryo Transfer
  • FF = Fertility Friend or Fat Friendly
  • FHR = Fetal Heart Rate
  • FP = Follicular Phase
  • FM = Fertile Mucus or Fertility Monitor
  • FSH = Follicle Stimulating Hormone
  • FTTA = Fertile Thoughts To All
  • FUR = False Unicorn Root
  • FV = Fertile Vibes

G

  • GD = Gestational Diabetes

H

  • hCG, HCG = Human Chorionic Gonadotropin
  • HPT = Home Pregnancy Test
  • HRT = Hormone Replacement Therapy
  • HSC = Hysteroscopy
  • HSG = Hysterosalpingogram

 I

  • IBT = Immunobead Binding Test
  • ICI = Intra-cervical Insemination
  • ICSI = Intra-cytoplasmic Sperm Injection
  • IF = Infertility
  • IOR = Immature Oocyte Retrieval
  • IR = Insulin Resistant
  • ITI = Intra-tubal Insemination
  • IUFD = Intra-uterine Fetal Demise
  • IUGR = Intra-uterine Growth Retardation
  • IUI = Intra-uterine Insemination
  • IVC = Intra-vaginal Culture
  • IVF = In Vitro Fertilization

L

  • LAP = Laparoscopy
  • LH = Luteinizing Hormone
  • LO = Love Olympics (sex)
  • LP = Luteal Phase
  • LPD = Luteal Phase Defect
  • LSP = Low Sperm Count
  • LUF, LUFS = Luteinized Unruptured Follicle Syndrome

M

  • MAI = Miscarriage After Infertility (mail list)
  • MC, m/c, misc. = Miscarriage
  • MESA = Microsurgical Epididymal Sperm Aspiration
  • MF = Male Factor

N

  • NORIF = Non-stimulated Oocyte Retrieval In (office) Fertilization

O

  • O, OV = Ovulation
  • OASIS = Overweight & Seeking Infertility Support
  • OB = Obstetrician
  • OB/GYN = Obstetrician/Gynecologist
  • OC = Oral Contraceptives
  • OD = Ovulatory Dysfunction
  • OHSS = Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome
  • ONNA = Oh No, Not Again
  • OPK Ovulation Predictor Kit
  • OPSS = Overweight & Pregnant Support
  • OPT = Ovulation Predictor Test
  • OTC = Over The Counter
  • OTTC = Overweight & Trying To Conceive
  • OW = Overweight

 P 

  • P4 = Progesterone
  • PANFERT = Pregnancy After Infertility
  • PCAO= Polycystic Appearing Ovaries
  • PCO = Polycystic Ovaries
  • PCOD = Polycystic Ovary Disease
  • PCOS = Polycystic Ovary Syndrome
  • PG = Pregnant
  • PID = Pelvic Inflammatory Disease
  • PIO = Progesterone in Oil
  • PMS = Pre-menstrual Syndrome
  • POC = Products of Conception
  • POF = Premature Ovarian Failure
  • PROM = Premature Rupture of Membranes

R           

  • RE = Reproductive Endocrinologist
  • RI = Reproductive Immunologist
  • RIP = Reproductive Immunophynotype
  • ROS = Reactive Oxygen Species
  • RPL = Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
  • RSA = Recurrent Spontaneous Abortion

                     

S

  • SA = Semen Analysis
  • s/b, S/B = Stillbirth
  • SI = Secondary Infertility

 T

  • TESA = Testicular Sperm Aspiration
  • TESE = Testicular Sperm Extraction
  • TET = Tubal Embryo Transfer
  • TL = Tubal Ligation
  • TR = Tubal Reversal
  • TRH = Thyroid Releasing Hormone
  • TSH = Thyroid Stimulating Hormone
  • TTC = Trying to Conceive
  • TTCAR = Trying to Conceive after Reversal
  • TUFT = Trans-uterine Fallopian Transfer
  • Tx = Treatment

U

  • UR = Urologist
  • US, u/s = Ultrasound UTI = Urinary Tract Infection

V

  • V = Vasectomy
  • VR = Vasectomy Reversal